The soil that most parents provide for their child’s growth is heavy with evaluation, judgement, criticism, moralising, preaching, admonishing – messages that show unacceptance.
Most people tend to think if you just accept a child as she is in her imperfect state then she will remain just that way and the best way to help the child is to tell her what you do not accept.
But the opposite is actually true. When a child feels accepted then they are freed to think about how they want to change, how they want to grow and how they might become more of what they are capable of becoming.
When parents learn how to show through their words an inner feeling of acceptance – they are in possession of a tool that will produce amazing results:
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A sense of self worth
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Actualisation of potential
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Independence
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Problem solving
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Inner strength
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Feeling loved